Fulfilling your singleness: before the person. We are living in a world where marriage is taken very seriously. If you are not married, society makes you feel different, which makes you undervalue your worth.
There is no price tag to your worth. You are priceless. Society gives a certain amount of recognition to those who are married. Let’s say if an item is worth $10, and another item is worth $100, we are likely to value the item that amount $100. The society calls you by your singleness and tells you that you are worth the same value as the item that amount $10.
There is every possibility that both items are worth the same value, yet the society will not tell you that, because we are talked into believing that the item worth $100 has a better value.
Society makes you despise singleness. Thus, marriage is made cultural, which is why singleness is like a taboo. In communities, in homes, singleness is not accepted. Marriage is expected of every individual once they turn a certain age. Once you are twenty five, twenty eight, thirty, thirty five and you are not yet married, it is an issue, people begin to ask you what the problem is.
Don’t undervalue you worth, because of what everyone else thinks. God does not put a less value on you because you are single.
In a list, marriage is at the top and singleness is at the bottom. We forget that singleness is the prerequisite for marriage.
[The story of Adam and Eve is a good example.]
God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper for him.”Genesis 2:18 NLT
However, God took Adam before Eve.
…What God desires to give you before the person…
1• “God took Adam and placed him in the garden of Eden.” Genesis 2:15 NLT
Most times, we want to place ourselves in a place where God has not placed us. Things don’t go well because we move about to different places. When God has placed you in a place, you will experience divine peace, everything you do will prosper. You will experience God’s divine grace.
2. “God placed man in the garden of Eden to tend and watch over it.” Genesis 2:15 NLT. This means that God placed man there for a purpose. He place you in that job for a purpose, maybe you earn a small wage, but God placed you there to fix a problem only you has the qualifications and experience for.
3. God made provisions available for man. “The Lord God made all sorts of trees grow up from the ground—trees that were beautiful and that produced delicious fruit. Genesis 2:9 NLT
My husband usually says, if ‘God sent you on an errand, He pays the bills’. I understands the statement better. It is faith talking. He will not leave you stranded when He has placed you in place.
He always make provisions available for you wherever He placed you.
4. God gave man identity. Then placed the man He made. Genesis 2:8 NLT
God made you in His own image. Don’t allow yourself to be misidentified by anybody. Being single doesn’t identifies you, Genesis 1:26, God made man in His own image. You are like God, so therefore nothing is impossible for you.
5. And God gave man parameters.
“But the Lord God warned him, “You may freely eat the fruit of every tree in the garden.” Genesis 2:16 NLT
“except the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. If you eat its fruit, you are sure to die.”
Genesis 2:17 NLT
Some people will say why would an unlimited God set limitations. Why would God say we can eat of every tree except one tree. God set limits for us because He doesn’t want us to die.
Every good parents set limitations for their children. For example, parents with infants and toddlers can testify that a gate prevents a child from falling and having injuries.
God built a relationship with us to build a relationship with others. If we have a good relationship with God, then we can have a good relationship with people.